Dating Myths for Men
Dating Myths for Men:
Myth #1 You have to be a politician, millionaire, athlete, or blessed by god to get hot dates
Guys love to believe that they don’t have what it takes to get a woman. Most men use their lack of success as an excuse for not dating and pursuing the women they really want. These men blame the system, society, social issues, and economic realities for the lack of sex, not the man in the mirror. While being in a position of power or being a rock star will obviously get you a large pool of women to draw from, you too can get hot sex if you heed my advice.
Here is the good news and the bad news. The good news: There are hot and sexy women available to you tonight. After personally surveying hundreds of women we’ve found that most are looking for a man like you, a normal guy with normal desires and a normal job. The bad news: you have to work to get women. It won’t happen by you staying home and complaining about it. The point is that you have what it takes to get women when you understand what the game is.
Repeat after me, “Dating is simply a numbers game.” You flirt with x number of women and that will result in x number of conversations which will lead to x number of coffee dates which will lead to sleeping with x number. Your work is to reduce what “x” is. To date means flirting with women and initiating conversations with women. Figure out the number ahead of time and then create a plan to go out and meet and talk to women. The process is simple if you are willing to create a step by step plan and follow it.
Myth #2 Just be nice and interesting enough you’ll get a woman
This is another horrible myth promoted by SNAGS (sensitive new age guys) and feminist men. Believing that being nice and interesting will work is one of the worst ideas promoted over the past 20 years. Do you really think women are looking for “nice” guys anyway? (The answer is an emphatic no). The bottom line is that women want to be SEDUCED and ROMANCED. Most men think that is they like a woman, and she says that he is “sweet,” “interesting,” or “a wonderful friend,” that he is moving the relationship towards romance and sex. This is dead wrong. The reason why is because women will either put you into the category of “friend” or “lover,” but not both. When you are nice and interesting a woman will likely put you into the category of friend, but not lover.
If you don’t believe this, just look around at all the jerks who have sex with the hottest women. Women certainly are not having sex with these guys in every position imaginable because they are interesting, intellectually stimulating and polite. No, these women are hot and heavy because these men are exciting, romantic, fun, and even a bit dangerous.
The solution: don’t give up being interesting and nice. That too would be a fatal error. The solution is to bring out other parts of your personality with a woman. Bring out the romantic part and let that guide you in sweeping a woman off her feet. Get into her shoes and figure out what would turn her on and excite her. If you find yourself spending time discussing fascinating topics, but not romantic ones, change the subject back to her beauty. Memorize poetry and whisper passages into her ear. If you tend to make the mistake of being a friend focus your attention on romance and seduction and avoid the “fascinating” thoughts in your head.
Myth # 3 Be a woman’s therapist and you’ll get a woman
Along the same lines as being a nice and interesting guy, many men use the therapist ploy to attempt being lovers with a woman. We’ve seen this myth play out time and time again by desperate fools trying to get a date. The ploy usually works this way; a horny guy is a friend with a woman he wants to date. He thinks that if she opens up to him emotionally then it will likely lead to sex. He thinks that if he can solve her emotional problems she will want to date him. Then, to his surprise, things pan out differently. Suddenly she starts to discuss every problem in her life with him. The guy thinks this is good and listens more and more and more to her complaints. In fact, he thinks that the more he listens to her, the better the chances are of her going to bed with him. She starts crying on his shoulder more frequently and even begins asking him to take her out for ice cream, expensive dinners, and even loan her money when she becomes too depressed to work. Now it turns ugly, she begins telling him about her problems with men. Our jr. therapist stays in the role of advice giver and a lowly “friend’ to the woman. She dates the jerks and comes to him for advice.
The solution: Never be a therapist to a woman. Remember that you are either a lowly friend or a lover, not both. The most important thing in dealing with a woman is to make your romantic interests known right away so she thinks of you as a potential lover, not a friend. When you are become a confidant to a woman she begins to associate you with her negative emotions and negative experiences putting you further out of the running for lover. If you are in this position with women right now, stop being the therapist today. You are wasting your time and avoiding being out in the world pursuing other women. Get out now while you still have a chance.
Myth #4 There is a limited number of available women
This is the type of myth promoted by babies disguised as men. Men who can’t get laid to save their lives and then search for lame reasons why. In fact, there is no evidence anywhere to back up this claim. Does the high percentage of divorce and affairs justify this myth? No. Does the high number of single prove that this is indeed a fact? No. Does the large number of personals ads reflect this to be true? No. That is why it is called a myth and simply unfounded. Enough said.
Myth #5 You don’t have what it takes to get a woman
In their quietest moments, some men believe that there is something fundamentally wrong with them. They truly think some core part of themselves is fundamentally flawed. To this I say YOU ARE WRONG!
It is every man’s birthright to bed a woman. After studying this topic in an exhaustive fashion, I have noticed that the size of a man’s belly or even the size of his IQ (not the size of his penis) has no bearing on his ability to get women. We’ve seen fat men with models, short men with sexy 21 year olds, and guys so ugly that they looked like they were beaten with a bag of quarters cuddling with hot and sexy babes. We won’t bore you with stories about idiots. You can be a nerd with a pen protector and get tons of sex if you have the necessary confidence. No matter what you look like women will want you if you demonstrate confidence and are out flirting and dating women. We recently saw an obese 45 year old guy flirting with every hot woman in a crowded bar. They stared into his eyes fascinated and turned on by his confidence and wit. He made no apologies for his size or his ugliness and the women went for it.
Once again it comes down to pursuing women. Just doing it. Here is secret: Many models complain that they can’t get a date. Many claim that men are too scared to approach them because of their beauty. Be in the small cadre of studs who flirts with the women who you are attracted to and you will be miles above the pack. This is purely a numbers game. Once you begin flirting with 10-20 women per day you will quickly results.
For both men and women you can use these myths to propel your own pursuit of the opposite sex. These techniques have been time tested and have received wonderful results from women and men worldwide. Stay aware of the myths that run your relationship life as well as your sex life and choose the path towards prosperity.
We aren’t kidding about the danger of these myths. Each myth seems small, but any one of them can trash any relationship you are trying to build. Each and every one of them creates resentment in you, distance in your relationships, and trouble in your interactions. Simply put, most people we’ve met and worked with tend to buy into several of these myths, and this keeps them alone and without a relationship.
The good news is that you can stop believing these myths, and that when you do, many of your problems with men will disappear immediately. Simply understanding and noticing how these myths play out in your life will provide you with an access to new freedom with men and women and increase your ability to attract your perfect mate.