How To Get Anyone To Fall In Love With You
We’ve all been in one of those situations where we see someone who catches our eye and causes our hearts to skip a beat with excitement. It could be someone that you see at work, around your neighborhood, at the grocery store, at school, or maybe at your local Starbucks. Regardless of the circumstances, you feel an instant attraction for this person and you’re wondering if the other person could possibly feel the same about you given the chance.
Or maybe there is someone you already know who you’ve started to have more intense feelings for. Perhaps it’s someone you socialize with regularly, or even a person you’ve gone out on a few dates with. The problem is that you’re starting to fall in love, but you’re afraid of scaring the other person away if they don’t feel the same.
What can you do if you find yourself faced with one of these situations? How can you get that special someone to notice and pay attention to you? And if everything checks out favorably, how do you get this person to fall in love with you?
WHAT YOU CAN AND CAN’T DO
Everybody has the ability to get noticed, build rapport, and create a friendly association with another person. With added skill, you can also learn how to hold the attention of any person who is willing and able to respond favorably to you.
But getting another person to fall in love with you requires a few common sense principles. One is that the person you desire must be within reasonable expectations. For example, an average guy who seeks Nicole Kidman’s hand in marriage or a non-descript woman who wants Brad Pitt to fall in love with them is not thinking within reasonable expectations.
Another factor is that you aren’t likely to change a “no” into a “yes.” Once a person makes up their mind that you’re not dating material, it is nearly impossible to change their minds. But you do possess the ability to change an undecided “maybe” into a “yes.”
8 SMART MOVES FOR GETTING SOMEONE TO FALL FOR YOU
In my book, Men Are Like Fish: What Every Woman Needs To Know About Catching A Man, I state the following strategy for getting men emotionally hooked:
Love can strike instantly: A woman hooks a man good when his guard is down and she is at her feminine best. But a woman spooks a man away early when his guard is up and she’s at her worst. A smart woman realizes that she must hook him quickly before there is any chance of spooking him away. This clever woman knows that after a man is smitten with love he will put up with almost anything.
In addition to this tactical strategy, here are eight moves that any woman or man can make in order to get someone to fall in love with them:
1. BECOME MEGA-ATTRACTIVE
Do your best to improve your overall appearance. Be healthy and fit. Make sure that your hair, skin, teeth, and nails are appealing and not repulsive. Practice good hygiene. Ask for professional help in the area of style and dress. Develop self-confidence and raise your self-esteem by raising the self-esteem of others. What ultimately attracts or repeals potential mates is your attitude about yourself.
2. FIND AND FIX YOUR BLIND SPOTS
Get accurate feedback or find a good checklist of things that could reveal your hidden weaknesses. These are things that are evident to everyone else except you. Examples of blind spots would include: bad breath, unpleasant body odor, bad language, poor manners, dishonesty, and excessive gossiping. Your job is to seek out your weaknesses and fix them so they don’t taint the positive impression that you’re trying to make.
3. MASTER YOUR PEOPLE SKILLS
Getting people to like you is the natural by-product of consistently practicing effective people skills. These skills include: 1) Begin in a friendly manner, 2) Avoid arguments, 3) Make the other person feel important, 4) Never tell the other person they are wrong, 5) Talk in terms of their interests, 6) Give sincere compliments, and 7) Don’t criticize or complain.
4. GET GOOD AT SMALL TALK AND BIG LISTEN
Become a better conversationalist by speaking and listening in the following manner: 1) Be brief, 2) Have something good to say, 3) Say it well, 4) Speak with the appropriate emotion, 5) Know what not to say, 6) Focus more on listening, 7) Give the speaker your full attention, and Give positive non-verbal feedback.
5. GET THEM TO LOWER THEIR GUARD
Take the pressure off of any situation by being down-to-earth and adding tasteful humor. Admit some of your minor mistakes in an effort to make yourself more real in the other person’s eyes. Some tasteful teasing may also entice the other person to do the same. By lower the other person’s guard, they can take in and appreciate more of your subtle strengths.
6. GIVE THEM A FRESH TASTE OF YOUR BEST
Make a favorable impression on a romantic level by showing the “hottie,” “sweetie,” and “real” sides of your personality. The “hottie” side appeals to the opposite sex in a traditional way. That means that a man should be more masculine and strong, while the woman should aim at being more feminine and alluring. The “sweetie” side is the part of you that is caring, kind, warm, sensitive, and considerate. The “real” side of you isn’t phony or designed to impress, but the true character of an all-around decent human being.
7. WAIT FOR A PEAK EMOTIONAL MOMENT
Timing is important when it comes to impacting another person. When emotions are running high, that’s the time to give them a sample of who you are. It is at these peak moments that memories of all kind get imprinted deeply into our mind, hearts, and souls.
8. ANCHOR YOURSELF INTO THEIR HEART
In order to link the positive emotions of a peak moment with you on another person, you must do or say something unique or even shocking that sets you apart from other stimulus. That way when the other person recalls that memorable moment, they will automatically think of you as being part of the cause for their good feelings. If the attraction is naturally there, then this process called “anchoring” creates the emotional attachment you need to build a strong love connection. Then it’s just a matter of stacking positive anchors so that the feelings of passion, excitement, fun, and joy weigh heavily on your side until they become convinced that you’re the one.
Falling in love still remains a largely misunderstood process. But with some common sense and a good grasp of the key elements mentioned above, a sensitive man or woman has the ability to align themselves with the natural forces that cause people to fall in love.
The Bottom Line
Your love life can be a frustrating and disappointing experience when you haven’t got a clue as to what causes things to happen. But dating, romance, and love can be wonderful experiences when you learn and grow into a person who naturally deserves and attains the dreams they desire.