One 2 One | I have been in a relationship for 5 years and we had an argument last month and I haven’t seen or heard from him since. In the past, every time something went wrong he wouldn’t call and I would always give in. This time I don’t want to call, am missing him like crazy. What do I do?

I have been in a relationship for 5 years and we had an argument last month and I haven’t seen or heard from him since. In the past, every time something went wrong he wouldn’t call and I would always give in. This time I don’t want to call, am missing him like crazy. What do I do?

By Guest Friday,July 01, 2011

Rita | 10 Jul
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not much to do..LEAVE…
Shina Rae | 13 Jul
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You know what, I’ve been in a situation with a guy just like this. After the third time of going a month without speaking after an issue arose, I decided it was time to move on, so I could find someone who had the courage to stand up for me and say he wanted me. It hurts of course, because I really loved this guy, but I had to ask myself a question.

Honestly if he does want me (or you in your case) and just has too much pride to cave, how is that going to play out if the relationship continues?

You both have to be able to sacrifice for each other because we want to be with each other more than we want to have our pride after some silly tiff. And if he’s always going to be too aloof, and leave me always picking up the pieces, well to me, he’s not worth calling.

But if you’ve called and made up, more power to you. If this is the only part of the relationship that seems one sided, there’s nothing wrong with letting the power of love be more powerful than pride and just swallowing it and calling.
Zorah | 19 Jul
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I hate to say this, I don’t anything about this past breakups, but sometimes people pick fights because they want the relationship to end. Do not crawl back ever unless you need to apologize. If so, just apologize and move on. Not speaking this early on is not a good sign for real issues later when the big challenges come up.