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What is the best way to start flirting with someone after they respond to your flirt? Is it okay for the women to start conversation or should i wait for the man to initiate it?
By Sakin Shrestha
Monday,June 20, 2011
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Women! go read my post on “how soon is it to start dating after a divorce or seperation”. Enough Said.
Of course it’s okay for a woman to start a conversation with a man. I’ve heard that men like it when a woman initiates a conversation as it takes the pressure off of them. The idea though is to not come on too strong because you like the guy.
When he flirts back, now what? For this scenario, let’s assume you spot him at a friend’s house party.
Here’s my rule #1. Get comfortable with yourself first.
Real confidence undeniably oozes out of you because it is trusting, knowing and accepting yourself with all your awesomeness and your flaws.
Confidence IS sexy and incredibly alluring.
Do you need to see if that green salad didn’t leave one glaring remnant between your front teeth? No problem, glide gracefully into the ladies room, powder your nose and quickly check every nook and cranny of your pearly whites.
Now get out there and conquer your Flirting Fears.
If you’re comfortable initiating the ‘chat’, go for it.
As you walk over,
#1 …keep your eyes focused on him
#2 …smile
#3 …keep your peripheral vision in check to make sure there’s nothing in the way that’ll make you fall flat on your face
#4 …and as soon as you are within earshot, either ask him a question, make a remark about what is around him or compliment him.
If he is interested, he will gladly reciprocate. He’d even feel flattered.
You’ll notice 2 things. The smile and the eye contact. It’s unmistakably irresistible.
If he’s not interested (i.e., maybe his girlfriend or wife is across the room) pay attention to his body language. His eyes will start looking away, or he’ll start scanning the room. Watch his arms – are they crossed? Hmmm…not a good ‘sign’.
But wait! If he’s unattached, maybe he’s just nervous. Cut him some slack. Maybe he hasn’t been approached by a Goddess like you, so allow him to get back down to earth.
Other signs to watch for, he will ask questions, and his body language will show openness and acceptance within his own personal space. He wants you there, so stay.
Enjoy this precious moment because to a normal, busy, preoccupied person, this doesn’t happen everyday. Unless they’re a serial flirt. Nothing wrong with that, they’re just different than you.
So, that’s all well and good.
What if you’re NOT comfortable approaching a man?
Rule #1 is get over it. You’re a big girl. What’s the worst thing that could happen?
Or, you can wait until he decides to approach you and if he does, you’ve gone past the hurdle, so indulge yourself and make it fun and light.
On the other hand, both of you can do nothing at all, and the night will just be another ordinary night in the day of (your name here).
You’ll probably be hitting yourself in the head for not saying ‘Hi’, and by that time, someone else may have scooped him up at the party or he could’ve just said goodbye to everyone and left.
Either way, you’re left with this gigantic feeling of ‘yearning’ for what could’ve and should’ve.
Your friend in the name of LOVE,
The Dating Coach