Tips for a Successful First Date – Blind Date & First Date Tips
1. Be Honest About Who You Are.
Your presence shouldn’t prop up questions and fears. If you lie in describing yourself before you meet, your date will assume that you cannot be trusted. If you’re having a hard time selecting a picture that represents you, or you feel the need to alter your image then ask yourself if you are truly happy with who you are. If you’re not then take the necessary actions needed to get you comfortable with yourself.
2. Put Your Best Foot Forward.
Take the time to look and smell good for your date. While on the date avoid any fluids or sounds that remind others of the human condition; blowing your nose, belching, sniffling, cruds, earwax, nose hairs, excess gas or anything revolting is not synonymous with good hygiene or sex appeal.
There’s only one thing worse than a bad date, and that’s a bad date with bad breadth. 40 Million Americans suffer from dog breath (Halitosis). The weird thing is you might be one of them and not even know it. If you want to keep heads from turning away when you speak then you should kiss any bacteria build up good-bye. Invest in a tongue scrapper and a good toothbrush. If you don’t know what a tongue scrapper is then I suggest you see a dentist at your earliest convenience.
3. Safety Should Always Be Paramount
Arrive separately and met at a public place with good lighting. Have a friend nearby if possible. It’s best to meet for lunch or breakfast, when there’s daylight; you get a better look at your date. Additionally it’s much easier to cut the date short, dinner dates are expected to be longer. Don’t go on a cruise or out of town on your first date, if things don’t work out, you’ll be stuck with your date for what will seem like an eternity.
***Ladies, avoid high-heeled shoes on the first date, just in case you need to make a quick, but graceful get-away from your date.
4. Stay Positive And Upbeat
Avoid heavy subjects – death, sex, religion, and exes should be off limits on the first date. Ask real questions, maintain good eye contact and keep an open body language. Some people didn’t get their hugs as kids and they’re still carrying that hurt, others have past trust issues that they are waiting to project on someone else, remember that your date isn’t a therapist. Talking too much about your problems on the first date is a warning sign of other emotional issues.
5. Don’t Blow Your Own Horn
The first date is a mutual fact finding mission. It’s not a platform to display your impressive career path or accomplishments. If you’re blowing your own horn, others will begin to wonder what else you enjoy tooting on your own.
6. Go Easy On The Libations
While alcohol lowers inhibitions, it’s quite dangerous to mix inebriation and your first introduction, especially if you don’t have a designated friend nearby. Who knows what you’ll end up doing or saying? If after 10 screwdrivers you end up in bed with someone, then you should know that you’re not there because he/she thinks you’re smart or kind to your mother. He/She is not going wake up the next morning and go “You’ve changed my life, now let’s get married!”
7. Be Prepared To Go Dutch
If it’s a first date, and your date doesn’t seem eager to pay, then realize that you both ate. Men often ask women out hoping to score eventually. Going Dutch precludes any false promise and premise of joy ahead. There’s no need for theatrics when the check arrives.
8. Have Mercy On Your Date
If you’re not interested in continuing the date, find a way to kindly end it. If you get rejected, have a sense of humor about it. You can’t always guess why you’re getting a negative response -you might have caught your date at a bad time, or reminded them of someone they had a bad experience with, so don’t take the rejection personally. Don’t argue or beg; instead ask what they will say yes to. If the answer is nothing then keep things in perspective. It’s not the end of the world. Do not violate your date with inappropriate touching, offensive language or persistent advances.
9. Ration Your Passion
Regardless of what your date says about the chemistry, having sex on a first date shows bad judgment and a lack of discipline – you loose respect, and appear very desperate. Sex with love is one of the glories of life; it’s like a Van Gogh painting. So take the time to get to know each others internal riches first.
10. Have fun and repeat as needed.